When was the last time you changed something in your life? Not for others, but for yourself? Started a new habit, changed your daily routine, refreshed your look?
Heraclitus once said: “Everything passes except change“. And he was so damn right. Change is a part of our nature, the main rule of the world. What if there were no changes? There would be no life on Earth, and we would be probably still watching the first season of Game of Thrones.
Interestingly, many of us are still afraid of changes. They usually seem to be “the last instance”. A sign of a crisis.
Monotonicity vs. changes
Monotonicity can be tiresome. I may sound like a terrible mother now, but the time of my maternity leave was probably the most monotonous and difficult time in my life. I felt like I was closed in a cage and could talk only to my crying baby. I lost myself somewhere in between stinky nappies and sweet lullabies.
With a smile on my face, inside I was hurting.
Many women don’t talk about how they feel in such a difficult time. Maternity is, indeed, beautiful, but its beginnings can deprive us of our own selves. Many of us get lost.
That’s why small changes are important in life. They make us feel like we’re embarking on a new adventure and make us feel better – physically and mentally. I know it especially now, when I’m on a good way to beat my depression (which I wasn’t able to identify for months!). Those could be the smallest things possible:
- Waking up 15 min earlier to do some yoga or meditation,
- Drinking more water,
- Changing your sedentary lifestyle to something more active,
- Reading more books,
- Changing your hairstyle,
- Take more weekend trips,
- Spending more time with friends,
- Fine a new passion or a challenge.
Few months back, after Chloe was born, I decided would wake up at 5:30am for a morning run 3 times a week. Yes, half past five. In the morning. I know there are people back home doing that, and that’s totally cool.
At that time Kampala is still dark as f*ck, though, and running in a darkness here, sooner or later, ends up with a twisted ankle or being ridden over by a boda-boda. On top of that, I’m not a morning person. Not at all.
I had tried everything – my favorite music, looking for a companion to run with, convincing myself I’d feel better later, and so on. I didn’t succeed though. Why? Because changes I wanted to implement were simply not realistic to me. It wasn’t me. I had just had a baby and being deprived of sleep clearly didn’t help me run before sunrise.
It took me two days to give up. I was feeling quite bad about that.
Ever since then, I’ve been trying to find something to stick to.
Your nature vs. changes
I always used to express myself through some sort of art – writing, singing, photography, drawing. You’ll rarely hear my deep thoughts in person. I’m an observer, emotional analyst easily sinking in others’ emotions, a free soul. I need space to process my thoughts. When I feel I need time to think, I’d just get into the car and drive ahead, go for a run or into the nature. That’s why traveling and high intensity workouts have always making me feel better.
Find out what YOUR nature is and what helps YOU express yourself, and start making small changes based on that.
My list of small changes and new habits includes:
- Being active throughout the day – 8,000 steps daily and 30 min workout 5 times a week (now it became much easier thanks to the present I received from Abhi, but this is a topic for another post)
- More active weekend trips – trekking in Rwenzori Mountains, Sipi Falls
- Drinking at least 2 litres of water every day
- Two high intensity trainings a week – boxing on Monday and running during the weekend
- Regular blogging
I have also changed my hair color to… blonde-ish 😀